Archive for May 19th, 2008

Getting a little personal…Somebody is telling me “Don’t do it”

Monday, May 19th, 2008

babyfeet.jpgSo ok this may be a little TMI but…oh well it’s life.
As you may or may not know Danger and I are trying for a second kid.  Leah, our 3yr old loves babies she always talks about having a little brother or sister “of her own”.  So in April we found out that we were expecting.  Words can’t even describe how excited we were after being off the pill for a year, it finally happened.  I never in a million years thought that it would take a year to get pregnant nor did I ever think that I would have to deal with the intense emotional pain of a miscarriage. Which is what happened shortly after we found out we were pregnant.  Man it was awful. Especially b/c I did the #1 no no and told Leah that we were expecting.  
Well, I was all about “getting back on the horse” and trying again, they say you’re most fertile after a miscarriage.  Leah doesn’t have any concept of time, a month or two off she won’t know the difference. 
Without going into detail…I did everything the Fertility Drs say to do.  If you’ve been through it, you know what I’m talking about. It’s fun and exhausting and work all at the same time.
I was so sure it was going to work, only good news ahead.  Until this past Friday :(  For some reason whatever it is, I guess it’s just not meant to be right now.  Somebody is telling us “Don’t do it”
Now I have to tell Leah about losing the baby, since she talks about ”her brother or sister” everyday.  I’m not really sure how I’m going to break the news to her.  I’m emotionally scaring my poor little girl.  What a terrible mother I am.  I’ve searched through website after website looking for the best advice on how to talk to her about it.  Keep it simple is the common theme I’ve found so far.  I dread it so much.