I agree with just about everything you said except for part of the 8th Commandment. As much as I loved my ex, the safety, welfare and happiness of our children always came first. Maybe that was wrong or maybe it was just the situation I was in that made it have to be that way. I never neglected my husband but I didn’t put him above our children. We took the responsibility of bringing children into the world and I think they deserved to be the main focus of our attention. We still had our time together too. One of the hardest questions someone asked me was, “If you had to save one of your children or your husband, which would you choose”?

Personally, I think there are people that just aren’t meant to be married. Some seem to be “in love” with the idea of being in love but can’t deal with it when they find it. And I do think that selfishness plays a role too. I don’t think there is any one answer that’s right. Like they say…..different strokes for different folks.

Take care,
Janet