The marriage gene?
Are there some people who are just not cut out for marriage? Does it take a certain genetic make up or personality trait?
One of my good friends is having issues finding “Mr. Right”. She’s beautiful, sweet, funny has a great body so she doesn’t have problems finding guys to date, it’s sticking with them and not getting bored or irritated. She says that she’s just not “made for marriage”.
I say, out of the things that irritate you, decide what you can live with because you are always going to find something that bugs you. And if it doesn’t bother you initially it may 5yrs down the road. Right?
Marriage is like anything else, it’s what you make it out to be. Of course, you should never stay in a marriage that is not safe. But otherwise it’s work, it craves attention. If it’s not new…it’s through.
Maybe, it’s not wether your “marriage material” but if you’re willing to give up your selfish side. Because after getting married it’s not all about you anymore.
The priest at my wedding was awesome, he made up the 10 Commandments of Marriage. (If I didn’t have to transcribe 
them I would post them all)
8th Commandment: Never put anything or anyone before each other. What ought to be the determining factor is not what’s best for the career, or what’s best for the pocketbook or even what’s best for the kids BUT what is best for the relationship. Neglect the whole world before you neglect each other
Awww… How sweet 
April 24th, 2008 at 12:15 am
Hi Sandy,
I agree with just about everything you said except for part of the 8th Commandment. As much as I loved my ex, the safety, welfare and happiness of our children always came first. Maybe that was wrong or maybe it was just the situation I was in that made it have to be that way. I never neglected my husband but I didn’t put him above our children. We took the responsibility of bringing children into the world and I think they deserved to be the main focus of our attention. We still had our time together too. One of the hardest questions someone asked me was, “If you had to save one of your children or your husband, which would you choose”?
Personally, I think there are people that just aren’t meant to be married. Some seem to be “in love” with the idea of being in love but can’t deal with it when they find it. And I do think that selfishness plays a role too. I don’t think there is any one answer that’s right. Like they say…..different strokes for different folks.
Take care,
Janet